Sunday, August 25, 2013

Taking this in a new direction

So far this blog has been about our life as an openly multiple system. That's great.
However, I think it's time to take this in a new direction. No longer should we just show that we're fine out in the open, but we need to actually change the points of view of the general public. Expect change to come. Anybody who want's to join us in this endeavor, please do not hesitate to contact us. We're going to need all the help we can get!

Saturday, August 10, 2013

An end of a chapter?

Things have been very interesting lately.
Someone who I met as a stranger at the ER is quickly becoming a good friend to the whole Klatch.
Friends who were supposedly good friends are drifting away from us.
I, individually, have been making friends. I'm not used to being invited places and talking with people face to face. It's overwhelming at times, but it feels good. I was afraid of how those friends would react to there being a whole group of people in one body, but they accepted me as I am and seem interested in meeting my headmates.
life is really changing. I think this might be the transition between chapters in our life. It's scary, but i, for one, welcome it with open arms.

-Julie

Monday, July 8, 2013

Health, a break, and activism.

As some may know, we have slowed down and quieted down a bit due to an issue with our balance. Whether or not we can walk straight is a moment by moment answer. Yet... We're still publicly plural, still showing that it isn't multiplicity that took us out of commission.

Some of you may also remember the incident with having our articles removed by other activists for the purpose of shutting us up. That group clung to those who removed the articles, even if they did say they disagreed with removing articles. We lost all motivation of working with that group as the people who took the articles down are still in charge and basically worshipped.

Now, I'm told my system are not activists at all by the supposed leader of that group. This leaves me wondering... What counts as activism.
We still educate people about multiplicity, and in 2 languages! We still answer posts online, correcting bad info or answering questions. We still show people, publicly, that we are perfectly fine as we are. Even at work, we are still known by our individual names and customers get to see that yes, a plural can earn a living. (Excluding the fact that our balance problem has landed us on disability)

Activism isn't necessarily a specific set of actions. Its a mindset with the goal to change people's point of view.
The number of tines we get told we changed somebody's thoughts of what a multiple is are too many to count.  To me, that is living our life in a way that changes people's point of view.

Too bad not everyone sees it this way.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

The First Rule of ______ ______, Don't Talk About ______ ______!

My apologies, however tonight's post has been removed due to complaints.
Unless someone else gives us the go ahead, there will be no more posts regarding the community in question. I apologize if I misunderstood any of the rules within the community.

Folken Family, and a Smoker's Cough

Folken Family is one of the greatest communities I have ever been a part of.
This weekend was absolutely amazing. We have been dealing with an issue with our ears, affecting our balance severely, and at times, our hearing as well. Like any real family, people were there to help when we struggled. If we stumbled, somebody caught us. If we hit the ground, people were instantly there to pick us up. When we couldn't walk across the camp in the dark because our balance was so poor, people took us by the arm and lead us where we needed to go. This really feels like a family, even the members of the community we don't know as well. I wish this would carry through out society. People caring about one another, people helping where help is needed.
The hayride was a little interesting this year. Most of the trip was on a flat tire, which fell right off at the turn around.
Most of the weekend was warm and dry, except for a rainy Sunday. I truly hate the final morning, as it's always the end of something special.

However, during the event, the concern of some people's asthma and allergies was brought up. Around the campfire, with everyone crowded around, cigarette smoke can aggravate people's illnesses. This lead to a bit of a war.

As the announcement was made, some people acted disrespectfully. This spilled over in to online conversations. It's so depressing to watch this community fight. Some people simply don't care if somebody suffers, others are willing to compromise, and some would just rather ban smoking all together. A few even swore and decided they were leaving. I have to say, it hurts to see people leave over a little tobacco. This has been one of the most heart breaking things to see come from this community. There is no reason to be fighting and arguing. Instead, we should all be discussing how to balance people indulging in their vices with considering people's health concerns, so that everyone can have a good time. I don't want to see the smokers leave, but at the same time I didn't enjoy seeing an asthmatic gasping for air. Smoking is a choice, and health issues are generally not.
This family of friends needs to come together and discuss this situation without fighting, threats to leave, and without shutting down and refusing to listen to the other side.
I am all about personal freedoms, but one person's freedom of choice ends where it starts causing someone else harm.

We have mixed feelings about this past weekend. We had a wonderful time, and were shown a lot of live, but the fight afterwards is very very saddening.

Saturday, May 11, 2013

A quiet night in the woods.

(Julie)
I'm here in Massachusetts again. I'm here to visit some friends of mine, and we had a free night of camping with the purchase of one night, so I decided to take a weekend in the campground. It's just me this time, my headmates are tucked quietly inside. I really just needed a little me time out in the outer world. Having learned enough sign language to begin expressing myself a bit, I've made some friends. However, I still need to learn who I really am. That might sound silly, but think about it... I've been a shy, quiet, nerd who avoids people... not because that is how I really am, but because I couldn't just communicate freely. Now, I can communicate with people. I can be included in a group, and not left to sit there and listen to speaking people talk. Now I get spend time with friends, and actually chime in, with my hands. It's a night and day experience, and even a little overwhelming at times. Most people have lot's of practice just chatting with people. I really haven't, aside from across the internet. To make things a little more overwhelming, I don't yet know enough sign language to really convey some of the deeper aspects of myself. I could chit chat, play games, but I couldn't sit here and have a conversation about my political opinions, for example.
Anyway, as I learn more ASL, I'm learning more about myself. I didn't know I was funny! I didn't know I was silly at times! It's been an interesting journey so far. I'm determined to at least finish my ASL course by summer's end. I want to be at least as good at ASL as I am with a keyboard. That's my personal goal.

The campfire doesn't seem to like me tonight. I had it going, and then it just died and I can't seem to get it relit.



No big deal, I'll survive. The main attraction for me this weekend is seeing my friends. There's a pot luck game night tomorrow. I'm so excited. I modified a pasta salad recipe, and it came out amazing. I can't wait till they try it!
I haven't really cooked for people before. I'm both excited and really nervous. Although, these guys know a lot about me already and still choose to spend time with me, so I'm not sure what I'm still nervous about.

Also tonight, I'm testing a few things on our camper car. We want to be able to use it when there is no electrical power. I'll be testing a propane heater, as well as the auxiliary battery. So far, the aux battery is more limited that expected. Although it runs the lights, and even the stereo nicely, it struggles to roll down a window and outright failed when I plugged in the laptop. It'll run lights for weeks though! There just might not be enough quickly available power to run the shock of rolling up a window or kicking on a laptop charger. If it runs the lights, the music, and charges a smartphone, that's all we need it to do on battery power.
For those of you not yet familiar with the camper car project, check out a couple photos.

It's a lot more comfy than it looks. It now has a nice bed and stuff in it. However, there's no need to bring a lantern, or a tent. Comfy cozy, with light and music!

I'm looking forward to having a talk with my deity this weekend too. Sometimes, I loose touch with them for a while. I hate when it happens, but that is just part of being human. Humans are busy.

Talking of being human, I'm getting a bit tired. I'm going to have to end this post here. I'll probably post again tomorrow. Maybe I can get some better photos of the camper car.

Friday, April 19, 2013

Our First Camping Trip of the Season!

I can't believe I didn't get a chance to post about our first camping trip of the season, till just now.
There isn't a whole lot to say about this trip. It was just a short weekend, to just get out there and warm up by a fire. Logan (our Subaru, who moonlights as a camper) is performing phenomenally well! This project was definitely worth the hard work each of us has put in to it!
Just a little mark to the beginning of our favorite time of year!

Happy Camping! We would be more than happy to have more friends to camp with us!

Friday, April 12, 2013

Where have we been?

I'm sure anyone following this blog has been wondering were we have been and why we haven't posted. We have been dealing with a rather disruptive health issue. The good news is that while it has not cleared up, we have been getting used to compensating for it. So with the warm weather on it's way, keep you're eyes out for now posts and hopefully new adventures!
If you do read our blog, please let us know you are still here!

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Haters Gonna Hate!

It seems there are some multiples out there who think that non-disordered multiplicity isn't real multiplicity. A handful have actually gotten very vocal about it and I wouldn't be shocked if their negative comments appeared here.
I'm not sure what thier issue is. They seem to think that the existence of multiples who aren't created by horrible events somehow minimizes thier life experiences. I don't understand thier point of view.
So I will say this:
We never wish to make light of those who are indeed struggling. Our only goals are to be ourselves, and to show the world that a multiple is nothing to fear or shun.
We are just us. If our existance offends you, that is something you may want to work on. We aren't here to take away from trauma based multiples.
We're here. We're multiple. We aren't out to ruin your life.

Thursday, March 7, 2013

We are definitely public!!

I know we've been gone from the blog for a while, but we've been up to stuff.
You can't say we aren't publicly plural. The NY Observer did an article on multiples.
I'm not thrilled they used a photo of our age slider as the hook, but the article itself isn't bad.
Feel free to read it!
http://betabeat.com/2013/03/me-and-you-and-everyone-we-know-the-many-many-many-faces-of-internet-multiples/